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What we saw at High Point Market

Sarah and I took one day to drive up to High Point for the furniture market last week.

It’s really not fair to say that this post does the market any justice. With over 180 separate buildings and something like 2000 vendors, we knew we’d never see it all, even if we DID go every day.

Prior to my first furniture market experience in Vegas a few months back, I really thought that this was a magical event hidden behind a large curtain that I was unable to peek behind. But the veil was lifted, and it was a bit Wizard of Oz. I believe that Sarah might agree – it was a little underwhelming. Certainly not all, but most of the vendors that we met with were not our style. I was hoping for this wildly stylish world to open up before us. It’s not the case.

But, we take that as our mission, to wade through what the world has to offer and select only the best of the best, for you to choose from, in our lovely and carefully selected environment.

That being said, we skipped the riffraff, and below we are sharing only the beautiful things that we saw.

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We started out by attending a panel. Sarah and I are both big fans of Lauren Liess, so it was great to be in the audience while she, along with fellow designer Meg Braff and the editorial folks at Southern Living & Coastal Living talked about the IDEA HOUSES for their respective magazines. Sarah and I both walked away wishing they had gotten a bit more into the weeds.

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We relegated ourselves to the Design & Antiques section and we visited with many of the smaller, global vendors that were stationed in the same building at Market Square. Here is where I found a 100 year old gymnastics bench from Germany. I sat and stared at it for some time, trying to contemplate how to get it back to California. Sarah felt like it was maybe a little TOO “California vibez” for what is happening in our SoPi shop. So, I will instead catalog this idea and begin a new search out here on this side of the country. That butter soft leather though….

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I wish I had gotten a better picture to do this pottery justice, but Middle Kingdom had a new matte glaze that we were really into. They were style spotted by Anne Sage, so we had a few laughs over that because we have a TON of mini vases and bowls from Middle Kingdom at shop TEOT. They make really great collector pieces. I enjoyed visiting with this company and I’m glad Sarah chose to carry them.

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basketsLook, we are really into hampers and catchall baskets. If you don’t know by now, large totes and stylish baskets around the house can make ALL the difference in the world where it comes to clutter. Have you ever had one of those moments where you get a call, and your mother-in-law is stopping by in ten minutes. Now you are running maniacally through the house trying to hide all your family’s mess. These are the answer. You just put your mess in there! :)
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Blue and white forever, y’all already know. This vendor had great mix of vintage and new reproductions. Sarah and I have debated over a few different options for carrying these classic pieces in the shop. I like the shapes and the price point here.

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Fantastic dog beds, and some were even big enough for my 130 pound puppy.

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Nothing haunts you like the things you didn’t buy. This will be one of those things. The colors and the pattern were special.

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We loved the green backing on this rug.

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Color blocked baskets are making their way to us sooner rather than later.
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We hung with Hassan, in the Moroccan booth for awhile. He had some interesting things to say about Sabra silk and he also said he manages tours to Morocco where he can arrange on site visits with some of his vendors that he works directly with. It sounded like a great way to take the trip.

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Lovely lines on a vintage Italian sofa, that was marked sold.

I’d love to have visited Interhall, as my understanding that this is the juried exhibition space for emerging talent.  It would be full of more up and coming vendors with something exciting going on. I also thought we might pop in to touch the arms of all of the Lee Industries sofas, but since our aspirations are a bit larger to our current reality and there are plenty of markets to attend in the future, we skipped large soft upholstery and furniture vendors for this trip.

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Sarah is doing some more wheeling and dealing here in the Jaipur booth, where we oohed and aahed over the textiles.

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Handpainted tiles from Turkey.

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A large collection of old bread boards caught our eye. This vendor deals in Raleigh, NC and they had some great stuff.

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Sarah and I stood in the Zoe Bios booth for quite some time, chatting through which pieces we’d like to take home for ourselves. The colors here are perfect!

 

So that’s it. Shopping the market is really one of the fantasy perks of this job, so it was awesome to get out there and experience the vendors in person, and while we are together. I look forward to plenty more buying trips in the future.

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Black Ceilings Y’all

Black ceilings, as it turns out, are not the scary dome of doom overhead that we might imagine. The cozying quality is worth consideration.

One of the ties that binds Sarah and I together is our appreciation for a great home decor trend.

This week, we are together in NC, and so it was really fun to relate over this mutual discovery of late.

We had both started to take special notice of black ceilings popping up in our world with great affect.

Here are a few that we shared with one another, and a few more too!

black-ceiling-with-rug-affixed-by-liz_kamarulBy the inspiring liz_kamarul via Instagram

Yeah Girl! I mean, the black ceiling was already impressive, but that jute rug that she affixed to the ceiling kicked it up another notch. I stared at this for a while until it struck me. Normally I’m not sure I’d feel too comfortable about a dark and stormy heavy oil on canvas hanging out on a top shelf in the kitchen like that. But with the heavy ceiling, the black appliances and the shadow on the kitchen island – it looks so awesome. A perfect perch. This is a wonderful moody take on the kitchen. I think moody is where we should all be looking for what’s next in interiors.

 

Black Ceilings Sarah BensonSarah Benson’s home has a black ceiling in the dining room. via Dwell  

Hey, that might be navy, but it provides the same affect and we dig it.

Black Ceilings Capree Kimball's Bathroom MakeoverCapree Kimball’s Bathroom Makeover. via Poppytalk 

Actually scratch that one before this, I like this bathroom below better. Similar elements, but overall, a more sophisticated execution. I have to ask myself between the two, despite their similar black ceilings, white subway tile, fun tile selections, they even both painted the respective vintage cast bowls with a black base. (though one is a sink, the other a clawfoot tub)… anyway. I ask myself about which one is going to hold up long over time. I think the statement in this bottom photo is less trend-driven, while still perfectly of this moment. It’s a fun balance, and it’s one that I’m trying to strike in my own home. But I have to fight myself hard because look at that cement tile in that bathroom up there. I love a graphic statement. 

Black Ceiling Michael Graydon and Nikole Herriott for DwellBlack Ceiling in Bathroom via Dwell

I got into that one. Let’s move on…

black-painted-ceiling-to-make-a-tall-ceiling-cozy-via-apartment-therapyvia Remodelaholic & Apartment Therapy

Apartment Therapy suggested that you might consider how a tall ceiling could be cozied up with a black ceiling.

black-ceilings-vaulted-ceiling-via-atlanta-homesvia Design Manifest

Sarah and I wondered if this concept would work in my bedroom ceilings. A quick look at what that looks like here. But we wondered if it was maybe a bit too dome like. Though as I stare at that image above, I wonder if it might just be improved a bit for my personally, if the black was a bit warmer and more matte in its finish.

black-ceilings-for-gypsiesvia Gypsy Yaya

I saw a rug at the High Point Market that this room above would love. It’s just the right mood. It was a Turkish style kilim with pops of color in its sparse, tribal imagery. I told the dealer that I needed it for my fantasy alter ego. This room looks like my other self’s home. Y’all know I love a gypsy, so I have added this blog to my reader in the boho category.

black-ceiling-closetvia Apartment Therapy

Here is a sweet sized little closet with a black ceiling and a lot of natural light. I love the white, black and wood combo, so this kind of makes me think it would fit in my house just fine.

As always, we want to know if you are into it, or could do without?  Thinking about taking the plunge? Let us know what you think.

 

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ADD THIS! Vintage African White Mudcloth

White Mudcloth

If you aren’t yet hip to the Vintage African textiles trend, get up on it y’all.

Mudcloth, in it’s exciting tribal patterns as well as the many indigos and ikats that we are seeing, are all the rage.

Today, we celebrate the wonderful addition that a white mudcloth pillow brings to any pillow grouping, regardless of your style. We love the boho maximal goodness that is everywhere we turn, but we also really appreciate a more subtle, if not sophisticated application of these nubby, textured and soft textiles.

The black and white pattern plays nicely with other colors and patterns and will likely pair well with your current decor. It’s an easy addition for a new flair.

Cruise on over to shop TEOT and see what we have in stock in white mudcloth. We think your home will sing with the addition of one of these global goodies!

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Shop Talk: TEOT Mini Kitchen Reveal

Hi friends,

Thanks for stopping in.

I wanted to give you guys a look at the final design of the mini-kitchen in our new brick and mortar shop.

For a quick refresher, SHOP TEOT is laid out very much like an apartment. We took that idea and ran with it.

Before we came along, the space was a salon. The back room that we turned into our kitchen had some really ugly exposed PVC piping and bit of a mess of some cabinetry. With the help of our crew, we pulled it all out, capped it off and started afresh with a miniature kitchen build.

This is where we were when we signed the lease.

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Having a mini kitchen built into the retail space serves a number of functions.

It’s wonderful for presentation and merchandising of our newly expanded kitchen and housewares collection. A sink is always a good idea, from washing dirty DIY hands to late nights with a bit of sour beer to get you through the tagging and pricing process. Of course, the whole setup plays host nicely for catered parties as well.

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Sarah knew pretty immediately that she wanted to put in some pesto green kitchen cabinets and an apron front sink. She zeroed in on a paint color called Artichoke, by Sherwin Williams.

You might have guessed it, but a quick look at the history of our kitchen trends will find that our blog pretty much nails the final product. We have our sconces, our open shelving, our favorite cabinet hue, brass pulls, mixed metals, and white subway tile!

It all comes together for a modern take on classic design! Here’s the final look. We hope you love the result as much as we do!

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Many thanks to Rachel Garrison for the photography!

SOURCES:

Black Sconces  |  Shaker Style Cabinetry  |  Pesto Paint Color  |  Reclaimed Shelves  |  Apron Front Sink  | White Subway Tile

 

 

Shop the TEOT Kitchen Collection

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Pattern on Pattern

Hi.

Have we discussed House of Hackney before? the leading boutique interior design firm in the UK?

I’m sure we have. If not, let’s have another look and then you can let me know what you think about this vibe.

The company was started by a high fashion husband wife duo that set out to merge historical pattern with modern treatment. To great affect, they have captured the hearts of a new generation. This is wild pattern on wild pattern and in contrast to the past few years of all white walls and stark neutral and organic application, I have to say it feels refreshing and exciting!

I’m inspired to say the very least. But, it takes all kinds! So you tell me,

Is this something that you don’t need in your life? Is it something to be admired, but not emulated? Or do you want your next decor experience to be about injecting pile upon pile of this British haute interior trend… full of luxurious drama, bordering on romance?

I’m thinking, for now, that I’ll just admire from afar… but boy does it get me excited to give it a look.

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New Bedding for Fall

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Fall is in the air…

Here in Los Angeles of course, it’s still a bunch of hot degrees, but the nights are growing cooler and soon we will buckle in for the season change.

All of you on the East Coast seem to be bundling up for Friday Night Football games and long afternoons in the park where the leaves will soon be changing colors.

My nephew, the freshman kicker on his HS Varsity team, just kicked a winning field goal and the after photos made me long for a cozy cable knit sweater and some new ankle boots to love.

While you are getting ready to get cozied up for the new season, we have an idea for you!

Fall is a wonderful time to update to your bedding for a fresh take on the season. I recently added a cool white linen duvet to my bedding scenario and it gave me a whole new outlook on my quality of life. It’s silly how much of a difference a change like that can make. Of course I also moved my bed to the opposite side of the room for its 3rd spot since we moved in. I’m trying desperately to find a configuration I can commit to, so we can call that room complete.

So, back to the task at hand. Our signature serene blues and whites from the TEOT bedding line are fantastic for a transition into cooler nights.

We selected a number of designs by the inimitable John Robshaw. If you aren’t familiar, trust us when we say that the extra long staple cottons (aka Egyptian Cottons) used in his lovely block print motifs are the most luxurious that the market has to offer. Sarah and her mom are HUGE fans of this bedding line and we are proud to offer them exclusively at TEOT in downtown Southern Pines.

So, in preparation for this, the coziest time of year – we suggest you lively up yourself with a major bedding upgrade! Here’s a peek from a recent tear out in Sarah’s inspiration file.

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Shop TEOT’s bedding collection here:

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TEOT SOPI – We’re Open for Biz!

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Have ya heard? We’re a legit brick and mortar shop!

It’s been a really long time in the making. We have arrived. We’re open in Southern Pines, NC.

Neither of us have ever done anything quite like this before.  I’m just so proud of how the shop opening came together, proud to be a small business co-owner, proud of Sarah, and excited to see where this crazy train leads us next!

If you know anyone in the Sandhills region of North Carolina, we would appreciate it if you gave them a heads up.

And if you are here from the Southern Pines Business Association, drop us a note in the comments to say Hello! We’re happy to be new members.

Come see us, or shop online at shopteot.com.

The Estate of Things
134 W. Pennsylvania Avenue
Southern Pines, NC  28387

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SHOPTALK…. It’s almost time

behind the scenes -sarah at the shop getting ready

 The Grand Opening of TEOT SOPI

Hi friends. It’s Betsy.

As my fellow bloggers may relate –  I feel mad guilty when I let the posts slip on down to the bottom of the growing To Do List. But, it’s been happening.

We’ll get back to sharing inspirations when we have our heads above water. In this era of supreme busy-ness, I’m trying not let myself or Sarah get too precious about what we can reasonably get done. This is a dream project and we have a lot riding on it. Its easy to get super stressed out.

But we have both been in stressful jobs before… and this isn’t that. This is what we make it and we really want it to be good so that people like it and support it! I know that business owners are all telling the same story, about long days and sleepless nights, and missing your spouse and all that. I hope that when we look back on this time it feels like the hard work was well worth it.

Until we are back in the blogging saddle that brought us here…. we are doing our best to save all of our creative juices and put them into carefully selecting the best collection of home goods, vintage furnishings and tons of great global gifts and eclectic collectibles for your home!

We open in less than 2 weeks. SEPTEMBER 8th.

It’s VERY exciting to see it all come together. We have NEON, we have barcodes, and we have achey bodies from all the fun, hard work.

If you are in the Southern Pines vicinity and you want to make it out for our opening party, send me a note and we’ll make sure you have the details. betsy at theestateofthings.com.

Love to all of you and thanks for being here with us through thick and thin bloggy times to shop times! <3

 

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Must Have: Vintage African Baskets as Wall Art

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Hi friends! It’s Betsy.

If you follow me on Betsy Moyer on Instagram, you might already know that I recently stumbled my way into a bevy of Vintage African Baskets as Wall Art for SHOP TEOT.

They have been hanging in the corner of our living room since, as seen in the photo above. They are bringing me so much joy. I hope we keep a good collection stocked so that I can leave these hanging in my own home for a while yet.

Today, I want to show you why I was out there on the hunt for the perfect vintage African Basket for wall art.

Here is a look at a few AMAZING and inspiring interiors featuring the handwoven baskets, braided and tied from the tall grasses of the river lands in Africa.

 

a stack of african baskets

top trends in interior designThese absolute works of art make a lovely impact once hung on the wall. Pair a large 18″ round handwoven basket alongside its partner in 13″ for a 3 dimensional addition to your gallery wall, or hang one solo to make its own statement.

You could also maximize your art piece with a grouping of 6 or more! Look how many are grouped here. Amazing!

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colorful Wall of Baskets

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We sold a mini collection of the vintage african baskets as wall art, as well as a BOLGA market basket, to Heffe’s mom.

I’m THRILLED that she supported TEOT with her purchase, but I also love to know that she has these lovely works of art in her home. Thanks Vivian!

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SHOP TEOT baskets are all handmade in Africa for Fair Wages.

The women of Zimbabwe have long taught the art of weaving palm leaves and reeds into the baskets as a rite of passage for the young girls. This craft has been passed down for generations on the sandy beach of Zimbabwe where the mountains meet the lake, in a simple village called Binga.

 

zimbabwe Wall of Baskets

Amazing!

You can get that look above by shopping with TEOT. If you are INSANELY COOL you could cover up the entire wall of your home like that photo above. Just hit me up on the side because I’ll need to increase my inventory numbers for you dramatically!

Here is a look at our African Basket Collection.

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Modern Dollhouses

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Hi friends, it’s Betsy.

There was a time when Heffe’s daughter and I were fashioning our own dollhouses. Today, I’m inspired to get back to work. Look at these INCREDIBLE examples I came across via Instagram.

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Lord have mercy… they are the cutest. Enjoy more at the hashtag: #dollhousetherapy

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How to Decorate with African Mudcloth if you aren’t all that BOHO!

As you guys well know, we love a good home decor trend, and the boho home decor craze that is sweeping SoCal and seeping its way across the nation is one that we are definitely influenced by.

But do you know how to decorate with African Mudcloth if you aren’t all that Boho?

Of course, we like to take the nod from a recent trend and incorporate its influence into our signature mix of styles, from traditional craftsman & cottage, to farmhouse modern, to midcentury classic and the bungalows and ranches of Southern California.

Below are a handful of examples that we have seen, that incorporate the popular mudcloth influence without being over the top boho hippie!

How to Decorate with African Mudcloth

How to Decorate with African Mudcloth if you aren't all that BOHO!from Emily Henderson’s recent eDesign Nursery client

How to Decorate with African Mudcloth if you aren't all that BOHO!
A SHOP TEOT pillow in a recent Laurel & Wolf Room Redo.

How to Decorate with African Mudcloth if you aren't all that BOHO!via Sarah Sherman Samuel

How to Decorate with African Mudcloth if you aren't all that BOHO!

 

How to Decorate with African Mudcloth if you aren't all that BOHO!

 

How to Decorate with African Mudcloth if you aren't all that BOHO!If your style leans New England Beachy Traditional…

 

How to Decorate with African Mudcloth if you aren't all that BOHO!

 

How to Decorate with African Mudcloth if you aren't all that BOHO!

 

How to Decorate with African Mudcloth if you aren't all that BOHO!If your style leans New Traditional…

 

How to Decorate with African Mudcloth if you aren't all that BOHO!If your style leans beachy…

 

How to Decorate with African Mudcloth if you aren't all that BOHO!

 

How to Decorate with African Mudcloth if you aren't all that BOHO!If your style leans SoCal Rustic…

 

How to Decorate with African Mudcloth if you aren't all that BOHO!

 

You can shop African Mudcloth on Shop TEOT.

 

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Weekend

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Hey y’all, it’s Betsy.

We picked all 68 oranges off of the orange tree a while back and we’ve been having fresh juice for weeks now. It’s a wonderful weekend treat when there is time to pull out the juicer and make the mess.

What are you up to this weekend? Celebrating your fathers and baby daddies, I hope!

Jeff and I are going downtown to the Los Angeles Beer Festival which is kind of like going to Oktoberfest in my home town of Hickory, NC, down on the square. Just kidding… it’s not like that at all. Similarly, there are lots of different craft beer vendors, and we will likely stand in line with tiny cups to taste the creations of the breweries that have been popping up around here like wildfire. I’m excited to seek out the sours.

Over in NC, Sarah and Dan will celebrating all weekend. Not only is Dan a father, but it’s also his birthday and he is 36. I have been soaking that number in recently! We are full on adults now y’all. It’s still a little tough for me to believe. Happy birthday Dan, I hope that you guys have a wonderful weekend full of love and celebration. You and your family are so special to me and I’m so glad they all have you.

Happy Interneting to you guys this weekend. If you find anything good, holler at us!

Have a peek inside a $900k Silverlake home with SoCal boho stylings

This week Jonathan Adler was the guest on the Clever Podcast

There are several conversations that we need to have with our nation, this person resonated with us this week.  

I will always love Sylvia Plath.

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TEOT SHOP TALK: The Store Upfit

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Hi, it’s Betsy.

Today we are going to talk about some exciting stuff. We’re getting a move on with the store upfit in Southern Pines, counting the days toward our September opening.

Below is a floor plan of the shop that we’re using for planning.

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The layout is similar to that of an apartment, which is appealing to us when we think of merchandising for home goods and furnishings. Sarah and I both loved the idea of organizing in a way that feels similar to perusing through a home where everything is so delightful, and you can take it away with you should you so wish.

 

The initial photographs that we have of the space are a bit dark, but they have been serving me well from 3000 miles away, remember I have only seen the space from the outside, craning to see in, smashing my face against the windows and dreaming! Thankfully for FACETIME virtual tours, I have a good idea of what we’re working toward!

So, these images will be trickling out here on the blog as we get into the minor renovations and repairs needed. Some construction began just this week.

What are we up to?

We opened up the wall into the bedroom. We matched a casing with transom that leads into the kitchen on the far wall. This will improve flow between the rooms and share some much needed light from the bedroom into the main floor.

RETAIL SHOP RENOVATIONMain Area looking over toward shared bedroom wall, pre-construction.

RETAIL SHOP RENOVATION BEFOREMain Area looking over toward shared kitchen wall, with existing cased opening and transom. Flanked by recessed shelving.

You can already see what a great improvement this was.

PROGRES REPORT the new transom opening

 

More to come! Stay tuned, as we are rocking and rolling with our renovation of the shop.

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Black and White plus Wood

Hi, it’s Betsy.

I’m moved by all things black and white plus wood lately! Just can’t stop pinning this fantastic combo in many different iterations.

My favorite thing about this job that we’re doing here, is immersing ourselves in design inspiration and then interpreting all that we’ve seen into our own spaces.

I love so many styles, from the sentimental and maximalist touches of boho to the rustic mix of farmhouse modern and of course the midcentury time capsule homes that are ubiquitous here in So Cal. Plus part of me still pines for the style of the cottage and craftsman homes that pepper the state streets of Southern Pines.

A little bit of all of that has made it into own home, and of course lots of it is apparent in my inspiration file.

I’m happy to take from all of these styles and use what I like and what I feel works in my own home.

Thanks to Sarah, I’ve honed in on a look for my new house to aspire to.

One trend that has emerged, both in my inspirations and in practice, is the black and white plus wood combo.

Let’s have a look at some of the inspiration images I have been referencing.

Becki Owens olivia-babarczy-home-3From Becki Owens

Modern in Black White and Wood

 

the-olivia-palermo-guide-to-styling-your-homefrom MyDomaine

studio mcgee kitchenStudio McGee

 

Of course, as a color lover, I like to see these elements play as a backdrop to other lively textures and pops of hue.

In our home, we’re working with colorful accents in the way of boho rugs, diy art projects and a boat load of ever-changing African Indigo inventory for SHOP TEOT. Throw in some global textiles, a vibrant vegetable dyed Persian pattern, a little fur for texture, plus some plant life and you have what, in my mind, is the winning combination of the moment.

We’ll call it California Eclectic! It’s a work in progress.

Shaniqua Black White and Wood Combo

 

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Weekend

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Ah, the weekend…

In Los Angeles around this time of year the Jacaranda trees are in bloom and the sky is often a bit gray and gloomy. May Grey & June Gloom are a real thing… it always messes with my nature because despite the fact that I have lived through almost 10 Los Angeles Springs, my body is hardwired for the heat of North Carolina’s Southern sunshine to start sneaking in around this time of year.

So, it’s gray this weekend. But, we got our heat wave this past week and it was a glorious thing. It was so hot in fact that my puppy was crying when we went to the park. We are lucky to live near the ocean breeze and not out there in the valley where he and I baked in the heat during a soccer match.

This weekend we are free. The kids will play with their new AMAZING futuristic virtual reality set and I am off to La Canada to record some vocals for the second album by The Luxembourg Signal.

Sarah will be anxiously awaiting tiles that we bought for the bathroom at the new shop.

 

Here are some links and things to enjoy with your slow weekend internetting.

 

Unless your Oprah, Be Yourself is terrible advice.
Are you as tired as I am of hearing the worst advice ever… this article says forget about it… We’re tired of hearing BE YOURSELF. The new new, is be your best self monitored self and fake it till you make it. We knew it all along. I liked this part.

“When we’re looking to change our game, a too rigid self-concept becomes an anchor that keeps us from sailing forth.”

And this part…

No one wants to hear everything that’s in your head. They just want you to live up to what comes out of your mouth.

 

This week in podcasts I nerded out with Krista Tippett while she interviewed two cultural and social anthropologists in a rather timely political climate about the polarization of our current democratic system, and victoriously a deep dive into the big picture affects that capitalism has on humanity. Whenever a political conversation breaks out among my peers, I am most often quiet. In my head, I’m a champion for capitalism, democracy, the constitution, and the fact that the complexities of failure that our two party politics is presenting is so heart breaking that I can’t bear to participate for lack of wanting to be another bumbling and naive contributor to dumb conversation. So, maybe that makes you disrespect me… I don’t know, that’s why I usually keep my mouth shut.  But if you DO relate to that, or if you like to challenge yourself to think differently about the anecdotes and platitudes of liberal activism… give it a listen. The two interviewees don’t actually agree with one another most of the time, so don’t worry, there is plenty of room in the conversation to ask yourself if you agree or disagree. We would all be better people if we listened to every single episode of On Being.

 

Sarah and I are sourcing tons of wonderful goods from all over the globe for TEOT. We’re trying to suss out the differences in the numerous wholesale companies. Some simply sell pretty wholesale items to fancy ladies in America. Some build nurturing relationships between global communities. Some provide fair wages for the labor of the artisans. Many of them sell the wares we love and want to look at in the comfort of our homes. It’s led me to do some thinking about giving back in general, more so than just on the granular product level. So, I’m digging in my heels and looking at a few charities. The standout is The Exodus Roada non-profit fighting human slavery and sex trafficking. They seek to help through undercover work and local police raids, on a global scale. It’s immense. My mind hums of fantastic cinematic stories unfolding, but I know that it takes a TON of people to get the job done. So, we’re excited to be narrowing in on a focus for giving.

 

Happy weekending to you all. I hope my heavy heart isn’t too much to bear on a Saturday morning. It’s gray and gloomy and so it’s got me thinking deeper than your average pretty pillow! <3

 

Also, sorry for the duplicate images. I don’t know what’s up with that, but I’ll spend the rest of my coffee cup trying to figure it out! 

 

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